I don’t mean to wax poetic about motherhood for the umpteenth time but in about 2 to 3 months, life as I know it, will change yet again. As a 35-year old mom to almost-three kids (and two dogs—as pet lovers know, these furry creatures are almost as cared-for as our human offspring), I am always surprised at the joys and challenges that each child brings. I thought for sure last Christmas that I will only be a parent to two lovely girls, but as the saying goes, “Man plans, God laughs.” Truer words were never said.
In preparation for the birth of my first son, here are some things I have decided to keep in mind and make an effort to retain learning.
- No two children are alike. Each one has his/her own sensitivity level and ways to feel happy.
- Take more photos. My husband and I tried to think back to our elementary years and were both surprised at how little we remember from it. We deduced that photos and videos spark up memories, so in essence, every opportunity truly is a Kodak moment. Or a Canon/mobile phone camera one for us, anyway.
- In every event, there is a lesson learned. For example, do not forget the small diaper bag containing the wipes and toilet paper just because you’re going out for 10 minutes—you never know when the kids might need to poop.
- Life is fleeting—spend it with one another. Our togetherness with our family is uncertain, however somber that thought is. One of the co-parents at our school recently lost his two teenage boys in one car accident, and I cannot imagine the horror and pain.
- Co-sleeping is one of the biggest, love-affirming things we could have ever done for our daughters. Hardly any nightmares, no bedwetting incidents. Of course, I realize this is not possible for other home set-ups, but it’s what works for us (P.S. If you need to do your “business,” there are other places in the house—you can’t be that busy nor lazy)
- Accept that even if you have extra hands helping you fix up, the children’s toys and stuff will be ruling your place. Smile when you see this, as it is a sign of a home lived in, and you will surely miss it when they’re grown and gone.
- Always verbalize your sweet somethings. Whenever I ask my girls, “Do you know how much I love you?” They answer me this without batting an eyelash or looking up, “With all your heart and soul.” I’m certain they know.
- Love, respect, and support your husband or partner. Father’s Day is a just a one-day reminder. You are a team, and once you feel that you’re not on the same side, there is something wrong with your marriage.
- Don’t feel pressured to live up to the Joneses. With a roof over your heads and food on the table, you can and will survive.
- Don’t be embarrassed to talk to your children about money. The sooner they realize that you actually work to buy them things, they will be more appreciative of your efforts, the things they own, and places they go to.
- Vitamin D is often taken for granted, but it is a necessity.
- “Teach them how to fish.”
- Look for a pediatrician you trust, and take their advice with a grain of salt after reading up on your own and trusting your parental intuition. Some of their information might already be outdated or inappropriate.
- The power of prayer. In any language or culture, there must be a God you can turn to.
Anyway, it’s almost 4 AM, and these are just some “plans,” and things I remembered. What’s on your list?
P.S. I’m on Twitter @karizfavis, and facebook.com/karizfavisofficial, should you be so inclined to get in touch…